As we welcome new girls into our home, we are conscious of the 42-girl waiting list the police gave us. In the next few months, we hope to expand our capacity from 6 to 12 girls. We are trusting in the Spirit to lead us as we discern whom to accept. Even though 36 girls must be turned away for now, we are so happy to see a these six precious girls receive life changing care, support, and counseling.
(You can read a few stories of transformation in the sections below.)
With the extra girls entering the home, we are also adding two additional staff members. In order to continue to provide food, shelter, and counseling for each girl, we will need your help. Precisely, we need the following additional support:
- We need 123 people to give a one-time donation of $71.
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For the next month we will be updating you on the progress! Join us as we bring healing to survivors of sexual abuse in the country of Malawi, where the average girl has her first sexual encounter at the age of 12 years. 71% of those girls are not willing participants in their first sexual encounter.
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Battles Waged Against Us
When a person undergoes a traumatic experience the ramifications can be great. This is especially true of very young girls who have an incredibly delicate and valuable piece of their identity mangled as a result of a forced sexual experience. You may encounter a myriad of side effects.
When a new girl enters our home we see anything from nightmares to a wish to no longer live. On a few different occasions I have heard that the painful effects of having malaria leave you wanting to die. Last week our counselor Roselyn was telling me that the emotional and physiological effects of abuse are comparable to that of malaria.
This is true in the life of 12-year-old Asha*. She entered the WtS home 7 months ago and had suicidal tendencies. The majority of her village and her peers at school mocked and rejected her because of the trauma that was forced on her, as if that itself wasn’t enough. She had locked herself up in her room not even to come out at the command of her mother.
Today it is hard to get her to stop giggling. She has become the “head girl” here in the home. Even though she is now ready to return home we have asked her to stay for another month to help us welcome the new girls in. Her school results recently came out and in one semester she jumped from 43 out of 82 all the way up to the 7th best student in her grade. She now has a desire to continue living and one day dreams to be a pastor.
“…known, yet regarded as unknown; dying, and yet we live on; beaten, and yet not killed; sorrowful, yet always rejoicing; poor, yet making many rich; having nothing, and yet possessing everything.” -2 Corinthians 6:9-10
*Not her real name
Rid of Bitterness
There is a certain factor that we have found to be vital in the realization of healing and freedom. Without this fundamental piece it becomes very difficult for the girls in our program to be rid of the bitterness that often plagues their spirits. In all honesty how can you undergo someone’s misuse of authority to reap pleasure from the disarming of your control and not have some form of hatred arise within you?
In Zahra’s* case it was the principal of her school. Although she was not even a teenager, this did not stop him from calling her into his office. Shortly after that she found herself alone in a pool of her own blood. And the hatred began to fester.
Hatred, like an infected wound, is difficult to heal on its own. Over time it can spread and cause more damage to areas that were never harmed to begin with. Healing is inhibited by infection. It is possible that bandaging up a wound causes more damage. We may find ourselves addressing the external needs of cleanliness and behavior all while evading legitimate emancipation.
When confronted with the proposition to exonerate her oppressor, Zahra, in all seriousness, stopped talking for over a week. She kept trying to seclude herself and was even seen shedding silent tears throughout that week. Absolution is like antiseptic to infection.
It’s impossible to fully understand what took place in Zahra during that week, but she is now truly a new person. There are few things in this world that inspire me more than to watch true transformation occur directly in front of my eyes. She has begun tutoring the younger girls here and can’t wait to one day become a teacher. She is excited to help others understand the mysteries of things they never once knew in a similar way to how she learned the mystery of forgiveness.
“Holding resentment doesn’t make you strong; it makes you bitter. Forgiving doesn’t make you weak; it sets you free.” –Dave Willis